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ccouch
04-17-2008, 10:04 PM
Ugh...I'm so irritated right now & I'm pretty sure you gals will feel my pain when I explain this situation (oh, and I apologize for the lengthy post....):

My husband's sister is graduating from high school & money is tight, so I told her I would take care of shooting her graduation pics and designing her announcements. No problem, right?

I spend a couple of hours shooting the most amazing pics - I'm really proud of how they turned out. I then spend several more hours de-linting and de-hairing the black shirt that she wore that day. Um, having a lint brush on hand - hindsight is 20/20!! I then create TWO different announcements - one for those who are invited to the ceremony, one for people who are getting the news only. I create 5 or so proofs with varying backgrounds for them to choose from.

MIL calls DH (not me) to place her "order." I order with Winkflash during the sale that they've got going on right now - 5x7s for 8 cents - saving her TONS of money. I supply envelopes from my own stash (150), and send them to the family.

The prints come in from Winkflash today and I call SIL to let her know. The family drops by this afternoon to get their photos. MIL says to SIL, "You did a good job, these look really good." Um, hello? I did all the work. I handed her the receipt from Winkflash, obviously just having her pay for the prints, not my time or anything like I would charge a client. She grabs a check and hands it to me. Her response, "Oh, you're *very* welcome." Then as she's walking away, says, "Oh, yeah, thanks for doing those."

I was LIVID! You know, she never shows appreciation for anything. DH will spend hours on her system, and she'll retrieve her CPU without so much as a thank you. I should not expect much gratitude, but GEEZ! I am 7 months pregnant, have a world of other junk I need to take care of, but I willingly give of my time - - and for what.

Really, I did this for my sister-in-law. She's a total gem and is our ultra-reliable sitter for Camille. She was SO appreciative & really that's what counts, but....ugh. Mothers in law :shrug:

Okay, rant over. Thanks for indulging me.

rh_scrapbooker
04-17-2008, 10:08 PM
*HUGS*

:happy065:

Rachel

melrio
04-17-2008, 10:11 PM
Hang in there! :)

mzkellyb
04-17-2008, 10:19 PM
Sorry she didn't appreciate your time spent on the project.

Hugs!

~Shawna~
04-17-2008, 10:27 PM
Ugh that stinks Christine! MIL's! I actually have the opposite MIL, too overly helpful, kinda nosey sometimes and she always knows the best way to do everything lol! We've butted heads many times over the last 14-15 years, but I know she means well in her own special way lol!

Well at least your SIL was appreciative of the time you spent to do her announcements! But I know what you mean, that it wouldn't have killed your MIL to show a little appreciation too! {{hugs}}

Laura M
04-17-2008, 11:04 PM
My MIL is pretty cool when we are not around each other, but when we are in the same room--I tire of her in about 1 hour. She means well but she is so critical of me and my twins. Uggh! But this is your rant -- So I will offer you a BIG OLE HUG!

Are you going to show us the invitations you made?

Meadow92
04-17-2008, 11:34 PM
Your SIL is the important one. So if she loved them and appreciated your time and work that's all that counts, ignore the rest. I know easier said than done. So big hugs!!

I want to see what you made too!! :)

ccouch
04-17-2008, 11:57 PM
You gals are the sweetest - - thanks for cheering me up :)

The announcements are pretty simple, but that's what SIL wanted. Just a muted background & I used mask from M.Coleman. I did add a couple of butterflies to the photo mask (SIL's favorite!).

Much love, girlies!!

http://i178.photobucket.com/albums/w245/ccouch01/Lauren_grad1copy.jpg

Oh, and here's one of my fave shots from the shoot:
http://i178.photobucket.com/albums/w245/ccouch01/IMG_2717edit.jpg

KimberlyGiarrusso
04-18-2008, 12:03 AM
Stinky McStinkerson.

*hugs* Christine.

shannonlcarlson
04-18-2008, 12:09 AM
Those photos and the invite are amazing!

I can SOOOO relate with ya on the MIL! :(

Paula
04-18-2008, 12:12 AM
I feel your pain sweetie!! I feel your pain!!

KarenLewis
04-18-2008, 12:48 AM
I feel your pain sweetie!! I feel your pain!!

I second that.......hugs....

you did an awesome job on the announcements!!

Priscilla
04-18-2008, 01:00 AM
Totally feel your pain -- My MIL drives me batty.

mzkellyb
04-18-2008, 01:13 AM
The announcement looks great! At least your SIL liked them.

syapotter
04-18-2008, 05:49 AM
With my mom, it's the other way round. It's the DIL who is not appreciative. Thankfully she's changing now. And my mom always said that when you get married, get married to someone who no longer has a mother so that you would not suffer. Hehehe..

dst212 (Daniela)
04-18-2008, 06:13 AM
Oh Christine, my biggest hugs to you... I won't even start talking about my MIL situation, because we reached a very confortable place (no contact at all) and I don't want to jinx that.

But about your MIL, she needs to be ignored a bit. Focus on your SIL, who you like and who appreciates the work you did for her. Nevermind the MIL. Nevermind all MILs!!!

By the way, the pictures look awesome, I love the way you did the announcement!

Deena
04-18-2008, 09:16 AM
I don't even talk to my MIL... for that matter DH rarely does LOL

SO I am totally there with you, they turned out gorgeous though!

Marlen
04-18-2008, 09:36 AM
With my MIL it`s not the best at all BUT it`s mch better now than a few years ago... actually I don`t think that we will be the best friends ever... so I understand absolutely how you feel (((hugs)))

By the way... the picture ist really beautiful and the card also is *wow*

Rynonut Mom
04-18-2008, 02:32 PM
Well - hugs to you, for the announcement and the photos are awesome! :)

tamra
04-18-2008, 04:32 PM
Uugghhh! The announcement looks GREAT! Be proud of the job that you did and that you did something nice for someone nice - not for you MIL! :) HUGS!!!

Fairytale_Studios
04-18-2008, 04:48 PM
ah it is such a pitty she wasn't very appreciative, but as the others have said, concentrate on you SIL who was appreciative.

That photo is gorgeous! The announcements are beautiful as well! You did an awesome job!

ccouch
04-18-2008, 05:41 PM
You girls are the bestest!! I just love y'all!! Thanks for all the sweet words :)

d2vasquez
04-18-2008, 06:05 PM
oh those are wonderful photos and announcements. I am sorry you had to go through that with your MIL - they are *interesting* as are the rest of the extended family. :) -------->disclaimer cuz sometimes dh looks here. :)

~Julie~
04-18-2008, 06:21 PM
{{hugs}} Im sorry she was like that to you.

The announcements look great!