When your attempts to be a good parent goes out the door...

[d2vasquez]

Ok as I am a major procrastinator and I decided to finally watch "Sixteen Candles" for tonight's chat last night! My girls (5 and 10) were there with me because we were making dinner for dh. Since it has been at least 20+ years since I seen this movie - I just remembered that I liked it and there wasn't anything out of the norm in it so I didn't shoo the girls away. So right off the bat - there is a curse word and I cringed but the girls didn't seem to pay attention and I thought ok this is it....I will keep watching.....another curse word......and as I am looking for the turner to turn the movie off.....a naked lady! NOW the girls are paying attention and are looking at me in shock! (or maybe that is my guilt - it might have been more the "ooooohhhh you owe us big time to keep quiet" look too...hehe)

I quickly turned it off and apologized to them telling them that the movie was definitely not appropriate for them. 45 minutes later my dh comes home and my little darling one, Hayley, runs to her dad and says "Mommy let us watch a movie with a naked lady!" Needless to say I had a lot of 'splaining to do especially since I was the one who got the girls' day camp to change the movie choice last week because I felt it was not appropriate for the little ones to see without their parents.

So now I am sitting here knowing my little one who is going through the "I am going to tell everyone exactly what my mom does or says" stage is going to carry this with her for days and let everyone know what happened unless of course I find a bribe that will quiet her until she finds something else to fixate on! :)

So anyone else have those "good parent gone awry" moments???? Please anyone....

[AngelinaS]

BWAHAHA! Poor Darla! Yes, I have PLENTY of them, I just can't seem to bring one that is as fun or embarrassing as yours right off the top of my head. Let me think about it, one will come to me...or maybe not, as I try to block those moments out of my memory as soon as possible! ROflol!

[busyizzie]

Yeah I've had my share and my dh has too. My dh let my son watch some movie 13 Ghosts and there was some nakedness and my son goes to school the next day, and tells some girl the line from the movie that involved the word tits. There's my son sitting in fourth grade talking about tits with another girl. Yep the teacher talked to dh about that one. I have nothing to do with those scary movies, this one you can't blame on me.

You can however blame me for dropping my son, the other one, and his infant seat down the stairs. OMG that is the worst "bad mommy" thing I can remember. I was traumatized from it I guess. And that was 17 years ago.

[Rynonut Mom]

LOL Darla - I totally would have done the same thing - except you saved me! LOL! I totally don't remember any of that either!

[Valgal]

LOL Darla! I just had to laugh at that. I let my ds (7) watch Men in Black because I thought it was clean (you know, aside from the slimey aliens and all that)... totally didn't realize how much language was in it. Opps!

I was playing Pac Man with Johnny a couple months ago and he kept saying, "Damn it. Damn it!" Johnny!

[MarshaZepeda]

Um yeah... PLENTY here... lol! My dear, sweet sister INSISTED that "Anger Management" was totally okay for my then 9 yr old to watch. Too bad that in the first 20 minutes there was a scene where 2 girls started kissing... he was mortified! He had never seen that before! YIKES! Bad mommy - er- AUNTIE for letting him watch that! lol!

[CraftTeaLady]

it is amazing what we forget w/ time, isn't it? I remembered LOVING An Officer and A Gentleman when I was in High School and so I rented it (long time ago now) w/ a friend of mine... then, what 30 seconds into it we have nudity?

Ah, well, it happens.

If you would like a great site to look at info on movies - why they have the rating they have (they rate 1 - 10 on violence, language and nudity) go to www.kidsinmind.com

Don't worry, we have all had Momma moments like that, they make us stronger and in time, we look back and call them memories. :)

[AngelinaS]

OK, I knew I'd remember one! Poor ds was about three and a half years old and he kept insisting there were monsters in his closet. Every night at bedtime involved a screaming fit because there was a "thing" in his closet. Dh and I let him leave a light on. We brought in the "magic" spray bottle to "spray" away his fears. We read silly books about monsters in the closet. We would even stay with him, until he fell asleep each night. And, of course, we kept insisting over and over and over again. "Buddy, we PROMISE you, there is nothing in your closet! It's just your imagination." Only to have him come screaming to us in the middle of the night, every night.

Fast forward to a week and a half later. I'm going through his closet cleaning out some toys and things and discover that a chipmunk had burrowed in through the attic space and taken up residence in a corner of his closet!!! :whatchuta :embaresse

Umm, yeah, dh and I both felt pretty rotten about that one. And, of course, he's eight now and we STILL hear..."remember when you didn't believe me that there was something in my closet?" whenever he wants to make us feel bad! :p

[nbeaudreau]

ROFL, Darla!! I totally remember the "naked lady" part from when I was younger. I just remember being embarrassed watching that part with my parents in the room! LOL

I remember when Aaron was 2 maybe 3 years old and for some reason his car seat was in the very back seat of the van. I pulled up to get gas only to discover that that pump was out of service. I thought that I was safe when I said "oh...s**t". Next time I had to get gas Aaron asked, "are we going to get the s**t gas?"!!! :whatchuta LOL Luckily he's forgotten all about that.

[d2vasquez]

LOL Angelina.....I am 40 years old and I STILL remind my mother of the week she didn't believe that I was telling her the truth that my stomach hurt. That was until she dragged me to the dr's to prove me wrong and well, I woke up later in a hospital bed - my appendix burst and they had to rush me in for surgery. :) hehee....but to her defense I always had ailments when it was PE day...hated going to them!

Oh thanks Gina for the link I will soooo use it.....I rarely watch movies since my girls OWN our tv's in our home and when I do I really make sure it's something both of them can watch with me...if not, it goes in my "one day I will see this" pile. :)

[nbeaudreau]

If you would like a great site to look at info on movies - why they have the rating they have (they rate 1 - 10 on violence, language and nudity) go to www.kidsinmind.com (http://www.kidsinmind.com)



Gina, thanks for that link! I wish I would have know about that when we took the kids to see Monster House. It was very inappropriate so we ended up walking out and getting a refund.

[noralong]

Gina, thanks for that link! I wish I would have know about that when we took the kids to see Monster House. It was very inappropriate so we ended up walking out and getting a refund.

You know, I had a bad feeling about that movie. It is too bad that have to package that stuff for the little kids to completely absorb!

I will never forget being in a video store, and this little kid, he looked about 4 1/2, maybe 5, wanted to watch a horror movie. I think it was one of the Jason ones. He begged, and begged, and finally his mom looked at what he had in his hand and said, "you already seen that 5 times." Poor grammar aside, what is she doing letting her baby watch that stuff?

[d2vasquez]

Gina, thanks for that link! I wish I would have know about that when we took the kids to see Monster House. It was very inappropriate so we ended up walking out and getting a refund.

Ohhh was it? That was the movie the kids' day camp went to instead. The girls just said they didn't like it.....which I could tell from the previews didn't look too all appealing. Man I am seeing major therapy bills coming ahead - for all of us! :retarded:

[sinead]

LOL--I have the same thing about reminding my mom of something she did. My mom thought I was being a hypochondriac (which she often accused me of being as a kid). I even went to her in the middle of the night about a rash that was developing on my arms(I was in high school and hadn't gone to wake her up in I don't know how long) and she told me to go back to bed and she'd look at it in the morning. She was shocked in the morning to see me with a neck swollen four times the size and huge welts all over my skin. I really topped it off when I passed out and had convulsions when she was getting me to get up and get dressed to go to the ER. lol She'll never live that one down!!

How about when I put on Snow White for my 2.5 yr old Maggie and scared the bejesus out of her with the mean witch/dragon stuff at the end? Not enough? That same day, I put on Little Mermaid...Ursula the sea witch had her screaming! eek!! (Can I just say that it was early on in the no nap days for us and I had a four hour shift of work to do and it had to be done in a certain timeframe? I've since learned... )

[d2vasquez]

LOL funny how you just remember movies as "being good" and you forget about the other things that might uh scare them, shock them or just plain not be ok for them.....

[Charla]

Sinead, what was the reaction from? How scary!!

Hilarious stories, everyone :)

[sinead]

Sinead, what was the reaction from? How scary!!

They were never sure if it was an allergic reaction to a virus or to penicillin. I'd been on the penicillin for about a week, so that's why they were never sure about that. Still, though, I don't take penicillin anymore. lol

[Charla]

I don't blame you! How terrifying.

[Leila]

I don't have any stories about my boys just yet, but I'm sure they're on the way! It's only a matter of time, right?

My mother, OTOH, has pulled some doozies in her day. Most of them having to do with me and my health. I was born with a genetic disorder called Ehlors-Danlos Sydrome. In essence, it's a connective-tissue disorder. There are nine types of EDS though, so it's often difficult to tell which type someone has until they hit puberty. I have Type III which effects my joints and makes me, well, floppy. So, any time I'd complain about a joint hurting my mother would ignore me for weeks on end. She did this constantly until one time my Grammy insisted on taking me to the doctor. My elbow had been very sore and tender for over a week, I also wasn't able to move it from a right angle bend. Long story short, it turns out that my elbow was broken. After that, Mom listened and acted much more quickly than she ever had before.

And then there's the chicken pox episode. I was 9, and my case was severe. My fever spiked to 107 and I had a seizure because of that. Appearantly, my mother thought I was faking!!!! Again my Grammy came to the rescue and drove me to the hospital herself. The pediatrician told us all that if I hadn't been brought in, I could have died. In his entire career, he's never seen case of CP like mine. He's still saying that 21 years later. :whatchuta

Needless to say, my mother doesn't get to live these down at all. I take great pleasure in reminding her of these events, especially now that she's convinced I've made up my three year old's Asperger's and other issues. :thinking2

[sinead]

Leila, I think I'd err on the side of your opinion (plus Grammy's! It sounds like she erred on the side of caution!). I haven't heard of that syndrome. Did you end up many broken bones through the years because of that? I've got arthritis, and it's especially effecting my hands, wrists, and feet at the moment. DH thinks I must be the clumsiest person on earth because I'm always "hurting" myself--like when I accidentally bump into something (door, chair, table, whatever) with one of my tender joints. I have to point out to him that what feels like nothing for him feels like a ball peen hammer smashing my joints. Still, though...

Anyway, I'm glad your Grammy came to your rescue!

[Laura_A]

Man I am seeing major therapy bills coming ahead - for all of us! :retarded:

Yep, forget saving for their college educations.... we need to be saving for their therapy sessions.

[sinead]

Ahhh...something I learned clearly from the u/s appt for this next baby when Maggie was freaking out. Apparently (Bad Mommy that I am) I have said one too many times, "Don't _______ Maggie or you will fall and crack your head open and Mommy will have to take you to the doctor for a shot." Miss Maggie was a basket case thinking that her baby sister was going to get a shot and she really really really didn't want her baby sister to get hurt! Oops!

[Leila]

Oddly enough, I've only broken my elbow and crushed the knuckles in my right hand. All my other injuries were soft tissue injuries. Of course, they were all caused by normal activity too. During my senior year of high school, my religion teacher shook my left hand and sprained my wrist in the process. I've sprained my ankles by walking, no twisting of the joint was necessary either. I also managed to tear the cartilege in my knees by extending my leg out straight. I had teachers who were convinced that my parents were abusing me, until they saw with their own eyes that it doesn't take much to hurt me. And to add insult to injury, I have arthritis in my knees and ankles as well as a "non-specific degenerative neuropathy" in both of my legs from the knee down. So now, if I do get hurt, I usually don't feel it at all which only makes things worse in the long run. DH checks my legs for bumps and bruises every night. Sigh...

And I'm very grateful for my Grammy. She's been my champion my entire life. :)


Leila, I think I'd err on the side of your opinion (plus Grammy's! It sounds like she erred on the side of caution!). I haven't heard of that syndrome. Did you end up many broken bones through the years because of that? I've got arthritis, and it's especially effecting my hands, wrists, and feet at the moment. DH thinks I must be the clumsiest person on earth because I'm always "hurting" myself--like when I accidentally bump into something (door, chair, table, whatever) with one of my tender joints. I have to point out to him that what feels like nothing for him feels like a ball peen hammer smashing my joints. Still, though...

Anyway, I'm glad your Grammy came to your rescue!