What "crowd" were you in, in high school?

[Charla]

I was a definite band geek (used all my study halls to practice), but I was also a total nerd. Hilarious stories about it, but there was a small group that made a fabulous study group...we just chose the lunchtime cafeteria to do it :D

So what crowd were you a part of in high school?

[JennStar]

I was a cheerleader and in drama, so I guess I spanned both "groups." I was pretty well known (I was captain my senior year, so it was pretty hard to miss me) but I wouldn't have called myself in the "popular" crowd, if you KWIM?

[JennStar]

(This should probably go on the "Did you know" thread) I dated a "band nerd." The funny part-- you guys have probably all seen his face. His last name: LaFave (as in the husband (ex husband now) of the teacher in Tampa who did "you know what" with her student).

[nesser1981]

I was friends with everyone, I guess. I didn't study, but I made good grades. I was a class officer, in drama. I think everyone knew me and we all got along.

[rh_scrapbooker]

I had my own little group of three (we had been friends since we were 12, and we're still friends today), but I guess you could say that I was a "spanner" - I was not in any crowd but my own, but I could tell you the name of almost every single person in my "class" of 500 or so. And I knew them by sight, even if I'd never talked to them. :)

Rachel

[d2vasquez]

I went to a an all-girl Catholic high school and there were only two groups - one that was extremely rich (went to Paris for the weekends, drove convertibles, etc) and those that weren't. I was in the latter - rough for the first year since I never actually knew we were poor until then but I think by Sophmore year I finally got that we were actually the "rich" ones and we were happy.

[ChristineS]

love your answer, Darla.
drama and music here

[AndreaBurns]

Ha! I was a band nerd too.... Rebecca, what did you play? Me, I played Flute (still do actually, I lead a flute ensemble in my church).

I was a little more alternative in HS, wore the bigger pants and glitter (oh man!) and my friends were very cool, even though I wasn't the most popular. The group of us were mixed, some band kids and some jocks.

I found my freedom and more popularity when I went to college....

[Charla]

Ditto the freedom in college, Andrea! I play clarinet :)

I got thinking about this because my four closest friends and I are getting together tomorrow for breakfast. The last one to move to our area did so in 7th grade, and Joanna and I have known each other since birth...and now three of us have babies, and three of us are pregnant (I'm in both groups) so we've gone from talking about growing up to pretending we actually are :D

[InLoveWithDOTS]

Band geek here, too and I see I was in good company! If I had it to do over, I would be a part of the same group again... great people! They got me through the toughest times of my life!

[~ashleigh]

hmmm, what a question, Charlene!

I don't think I was a part of any particular group. I went to a very large school, and I was friends with everybody (and by everybody, kids at other schools, too. I think I was actually more popular at another high school than I was at my own, lol.) I had a core group of friends, but I didn't buy into the clique thing. I was pretty smart, fairly artistic, and I was involved in a peer leadership/ multi cultural group that worked to fight predudice and racism in schools. I also got along much better with the guys, because they don't usually do the whole drama thing.

[Charla]

Ashleigh and everyone who fit in to so many groups, that's so cool! And Rachel, I was the opposite: I sat at my graduation thinking, "who are all of these people???" :D I had never seen most of them, let alone know who they were!

When I was in high school, I didn't realize I was a nerd, though I'm sure others would have told me that I was :) We had fun, we got along with people, but were never interested in cliques. And I am so thankful for them. I'm sure there were drugs and alcohol and sex, but my circles avoided all of that, so it was never even in my awareness, let alone a temptation :D

[AndreaBurns]

I am sure there were drugs and alcohol and sex, but my circles avoided all of that, so it was never even in my awareness, let alone a temptation :D

LOL~ that was why I wasn't the most popular... my friends were involved, but NOT me! I was the good kid in the group!

I have to say that I grew up wit 3 groups of friends.... Church Friends (like my youth group) Neighborhood Friends, and School friends.

Its kinda funny.... its the church friends I see most now when I go home to MD to visit family. I have lost touch with everyone else.

[sanstanton]

I was a band nerd too! I played the flute and piccolo...

[meganmecrazy]

I wasn't in any one group - I was friends with everybody! My story is very similar to Ashleigh's! I was friends with people at other schools too. I really miss that area that I used to live when going to school because I was so popular there. I couldn't leave the house once w/o running into a friend! LOVED that. Now where I live I don't know anybody in the area except for the people I had met at work and a few locals that I met online!

[Lauries815]

OK, I was in Student council, Yearbook staff, prom committee, .... felt like a big Goofball, kind of like I am now. I was the funny chubby girl, Still am, LOL. I have my 20 year reunion on Sep 30th. I did not go to my 10 year, so I am excited. I was in lots of groups, but never felt "Popular". I have not kept in touch with anyone, not one single soul, so it will be interesting to see who remembers me.

[AmyK]

I was a band geek, orch dork, and choir nerd - all the way! I also hung out with the stoners, even though I wasn't one (in high school, anyway :embaresse). Most of my really close friends were in my Youth Group, which was across town so they went to other schools. I'm not really sure where I fit in. I knew most people and I think they kind of knew me... I was also a brain, so people would try to sit by me on test days. That equals popularity, right?? :22:

[Laura_A]

Oh boy... this is a fun question. I started out High School probably the most quiet, scardest kid ever. Sophomore year I had my own little group of friends and everything was good, but by my Junior year I became friends with one of the more popular girls in school and it was all downhill from there. LOL Not really downhill, but socializing definitely became an important part of my life. I hung out with a lot of the popular kids, was a DECA officer, on the Dance Team (which at my school was a good thing), and worked where all the popular kids worked... McDonalds, if you can believe that... LOL. I dated lots of boys but never had a steady boyfriend, which I later realized was because they weren't getting what they wanted (if you know what I mean). So, I guess you could say I was part of the "IN" crowd, but I was also friends with people from other groups too... couldn't stand being mean to anyone... still can't.

[noralong]

I was too shy to be a band geek. Does that make me a band geek wanna be? YIKES!!! Really, I had close friends, but we were from all different groups. I went to school all 12 years with the same kids, it was just that every year more kids were added as the schools combined.

I grew up thinking that the "popular" kids were a bunch of snobs. But, the best lesson I learned in high school was that the popular kids are popular for a reason, they are nice to others. Once I realized that, the world became my oyster!

[~ashleigh]

Ashleigh and everyone who fit in to so many groups, that's so cool!

It was nice, especially because you always had someone in class to hang out with. But on the other hand, I sometimes felt like I didn't always fit in, KWIM?

[~ashleigh]

the best lesson I learned in high school was that the popular kids are popular for a reason, they are nice to others. Once I realized that, the world became my oyster!

That's so funny you said that, Nora! My older dd, who is 5 going on 15, asked me the other day what it meant to be popular. She is in Kindergarten, mind you :o). I told her that it meant that you had a lot of friends, and that people liked you, because you were nice to everyone.

Of course, that unfortunately is not always the case, but I don't think you can go wrong by being nice!

[tsajones]

I was more in the outcast group... I guess back then the term woud have been punkers, although we weren't really punks, lol. I was the most normal of the bunch, with my own natural hair color, etc. (yeah, I probably had the most involved mother of the group too, lol) But I enjoyed watching my friends change their hair colors and get tattoos.

The only club I ever belonged to was the art club, but only because they wouldn't let me paint the sets for the musicals unless I joined, lol.

The other day I pointed out a group of 'punks' at the mall and showed my dd their doc martens. I told her I had several pair just waiting for her feet to grow into them, and a cool leather jacket, but I guess her fashion style might be different than mine because she didn't care for that idea, lol.

[scrapsandsass]

In my sophomore year, I was on the Drill/Dance team. We had a huge obstacle to overcome because it used to be called the "dog squad". We worked soooooo hard over the summer to be terrific and all of the hard work paid off. (It also helped that the school changed the rules so that you had to be on the drill/dance team if you wanted to try out for cheerleading.) That was the best year ever. We got a standing ovation on the first day of high school (can't beat that) and no one threw dog biscuits! We had a huge team and always had a lot of fun, but weren't clique-y, so it was really nice. We'd go dancing on the weekends at an underage dance club and then do other fun stuff throughout the year.

The next year I couldn't afford to be on the team, so I was on the sort of fringe of the popular kids. I never took up partying or anything, so I was kind of the mother hen. I didn't really want to be part of the in-crowd, but I couldn't figure out who I was, so I just kind of coasted along. I was really smart and got along better with all of the guys, so that was kind of fun, but most of my friends were out of school. I started working at Boeing during my junior year and then I didn't really want to have much to do with the kids at school.

Then my senior year, I was hanging out with my older/Boeing friends and was raped and ended up pregnant, so that kind of put the damper on anyone wanting to be friends with me. But I was able to finish school on the honor roll even though I basically skipped at least 1/2 of the year.

I, for one, am just glad those high school days are behind me. I guess I wouldn't mind doing it over if I could do it knowing what I know now. :) KWIM?

[Leila]

I was definitely a band flag...meaning that I was in the marching band and on the indoor guard team, lol! I was a drama techie geek too. Most of my friends were involved in band or theatre as well, with the exception of my best friend. G was always just kinda there, lol! But, we're still friends 19 years later, so it's all good!

I skipped my 10 year class reunion because I was on partial bedrest during my pregnancy with Devin at the time. G attended, and I feel really badly for her--it seems that the only question she got asked the whole night was, "Where's Leila? How's she doing?" I find that very odd since I was not at all popular in school and the people who asked were the popular kids.

[Rynonut Mom]

I was a flag twirler in HS. I was a "spanner" too, as Rachel put it. Knew everyone was nice (I sure hope!) and friendly to everyone. Had a core of the 3 of us that did everything together. I have totally lost track of them, sadly. I found them several times, but never heard back, so lost contact again. I did have a another friend look me up last summer (before our 20 year HS reunion, no didn't go) and we've e-mailed off and on. I was also the "good" church going girl who didn't get into "all that". LOL! Worked at Wendy's during the "Where's the beef" days.
Now my BF and I have kept in contact all these years, although we didn't evene live in the same town after the year we met in 5th grade. She moved that summer, but we are still BF's alter all these years!!!

[LauraKaye]

This thread is soo funny! I was smack in the middle of the geeky smart kids in student council who were also band geeks. Is that a group? I was also on the tennis team which was known for being full of the rich kids who were doing drugs. I was by no means rich though...

[slkone]

Ahhhhh, did anyone else notice what Laura left off - that she was on the tennis team that was full of rich gals who did drugs but she was by no means rich.... LOL!

Anyway...I was in kind of a hybrid group. I was in a smart, "semi-cool" group. Not in the upper echelon of popular, probably because I wasn't into the really bad stuff that made you REALLY cool in my school. I was into academics, but not so much so that I was a nerd.

I don't keep in touch with anyone from HS. Although I did find my first love from HS on Friendster recently and I found out he's GAY! Now I know why it didn't work out between us! At least I know now for sure it wasn't me... *sigh*

[AmberC]

I was all over the place--

I was in art classes with all sorts of "different" people--and since that was the class we were allowed to talk the most in I got to know so many of them and really loved hanging with them.

Also AP classes with VERY college bound people.

I was captain of my soccer team, and hung out with some of the popular people in school, but was too much of a "good girl" to hang out with them on the weekend (if you know what I mean)

I dated off and on some preppy guys and then some total skater guys. nothing overly serious though. I am pretty sure that is because my parents were so strict that I couldn't go out with boys and my dad had to meet everyone before I went out. LOL!! (good parents:D--I think that now--but I hated it then)

I think I got along with lots of different groups because I was active in lots of things, soccer, track, student body stuff, honor society, art stuff, etc. I keep in touch with a handful of people from high school, but most of my dearest friends I made in college or on my church mission (when I was 21).


This is a totally cool question!! :D

[MarshaZepeda]

Then my senior year, I was hanging out with my older/Boeing friends and was raped and ended up pregnant, so that kind of put the damper on anyone wanting to be friends with me. But I was able to finish school on the honor roll even though I basically skipped at least 1/2 of the year.
Wow - that must've been a really hard thing to deal with! :(


I, for one, am just glad those high school days are behind me. I guess I wouldn't mind doing it over if I could do it knowing what I know now. :) KWIM?
I totally know what you mean!!! I have hardly NO good memories of High School... in fact, my 10 year reunion is next month and my best friend called to see if we were going... I told her HECK NO!!! lol! I came to Cali when I was 14 and started as a newbie in a new school full of ppl who grew up together and therefore had their groups of friends already... (I met my B.F. the last couple of months of Jr. High. We came in Feb so I had 3 months of 8th grade to finish... I was soooooooo mad at my dad and the stinkin military for doing that to me! lol!) Anyway, school was rough b/c it seemed like girls ALWAYS hated me! (I was very, very shy and quiet and therefore dubbed "stuck up & snobby"... :( ) Soooo.... I didn't really "fit in" with anyone. I was experiencing culture shock and didn't know where I wanted to fit in. I grew up as a GATE kid but in DODDS schools, no one ever made me feel like a 'nerd'... I was friends with EVERYONE! So coming to the states and realizing that all the groups were seperate was confusing to me. I made some pretty dumb choices. One being a follower... following a crowd that got me NOWHERE... I dropped my GATE classes and became a college prep student and started ditching school, partying... etc.... bad stuff (but I still don't think I was 'horrible' as my parents will claim, lol - it coulda been WORSE! ;)) So anyway, I made some really foolish choices, some I was not proud of and I really don't feel like going to see a bunch of people who knew me as something I'm not now... kwim???

[Kelsey]

Well, at my school, it's kinda confusing. We don't really have "in-crowds" or popular crowds...but we do have some sort of cliques? if that makes any sense. The school is so big, we don't really define each other. I know alot of different people from different groups....

and get this....the band at my school is usually considered pretty cool. haha