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sinead
11-18-2006, 01:19 PM
I just need to vent for a sec...I'm feeling guilty and worried about my mom. Indulge me?

As most of you know, I'm about to have another baby. DH was sent out of town last week for the week, and my mom didn't want me to be here alone at night with Maggie, so she came down for a few days. This is in spite of the fact that she's been struggling with Vertigo for the past month or so. She had been doing awesome--no dizziness or anything, but it all started after the last time she came here (we think it might be at least partially triggered by my cats), so I was nervous about her coming. Anyway, we had a great week and she was doing great. Wednesday afternoon she had a little dizzy spell, but took a nap and felt fine. Then Thursday night after dinner she got really sick--the sickest she's been yet. It finally stopped after midnight and she got a few hours of sleep. Friday morning, she was dizzy again but was ok enough to ride back to her house in the car (with my dad, who had to fly back in from out of town early and then drive down here and back to their house).

Last night and this morning she's sicker than she's ever been. My dad called her doc, who said he'd see her in his office instead of at the hospital (he's a friend from church), but my dad couldn't get her to the office because she's too weak. Doc called something in for her but said if she isn't better in a few hours, he's going to admit her to the hospital for observation.

I'm at my house an hour and a half away feeling like complete crap, like she got sick again because of something here at my house. :( Logically I know that it's not my fault and that vertigo is just like that, but I feel awful.

praying folks, could you say a little prayer for my mom?

Angela
11-18-2006, 01:23 PM
You got it!

{{HUGS}}

Charla
11-18-2006, 01:26 PM
(((hugs))) I'm praying too.

I totally understand the guilt, but I'm glad you realize it's not really because of the cats. :(

sanstanton
11-18-2006, 01:37 PM
I sure hope she is feeling better soon! Big (((hugs))) coming your way!

jennamelia
11-18-2006, 02:01 PM
Oh shoot- vertigo is the pits. My gma struggles with that too. Consider yourself hugged, and your mom prayed for... hang in there.

scrapsandsass
11-18-2006, 02:05 PM
Totally praying for your mom. Don't feel guilty hon... she wouldn't want you to feel that way!

MarshaZepeda
11-18-2006, 02:14 PM
: ( :60: ((hugs)) and prayers, too...

nbeaudreau
11-18-2006, 03:10 PM
awww....so sorry to hear this, Sinead. You and your mom are in my prayers. {{{HUGS}}}

~Shawna~
11-18-2006, 04:24 PM
Awww Sinead, lots of {{{hugs}}} girl! It is totally not your fault, it probably wasn't triggered by anything you'd have control over anyways. My mother-in-law has had it before & I remember getting the call to come to her house cause she was so sick she couldn't sit up in her own bed, we ended up calling an ambulance to take her to the ER. It was very scary but it does get better with time. You just need to rest up for baby day, cause it will be here before you know it! But I'll be praying that she has a quick recovery from this episode so that she's healthy when baby girl makes her entrance!!

KimberlyGiarrusso
11-18-2006, 04:25 PM
Oh sweety! Hugs!! Just know that it isn't your fault. I suffer from INTENSE vertigo, and there are triggers, but it's nothing that you or your house did to her. I will keep you both in my prayers.

Rynonut Mom
11-18-2006, 05:17 PM
Oh - hugs and prayers for both you and your mom, Sinead!

leah81
11-18-2006, 06:25 PM
awwwwwwww, I'm so sorry (hugs) I'll pray for your mom. I know that must be a really difficult situation. :(

chloe
11-18-2006, 06:48 PM
Lots of ((((hugs)))) and healthy vibes for the two of you, hope she'll feel better soon and you'll be able to stop feeling guilty. I know you can't help, we're all the same, but remember it won't make her feel better if you don't feel good!

AngelinaS
11-18-2006, 08:20 PM
(((hugs))) and prayers, too.

Valgal
11-18-2006, 09:01 PM
ABSOLUTELY not your fault... just a coincidence. I hope she's ok!!!

sinead
11-18-2006, 09:18 PM
Well, they've taken her to the hospital for observation overnight. I want to tell myself that it's for the best--she can be monitored there, and they can put her on an IV so that she doesn't get dehydrated. I'm just not sure that they're telling me the whole truth, you know, since I'm about to have a baby and all.

ugh, this is so frustrating! I wish I had some magic wand and I could just fix my mom. She's NEVER sick and is always there for everybody else. I just want to hug her myself and see her with my own two eyes...I think my dad would have a coronary if he thought I would get in the car right now. Maybe in the morning, but not right now.

Laura_A
11-19-2006, 06:51 AM
Awww, I'd feel bad too Sinead... even though it's not your fault. I wonder... is the elevation at your house much higher than at her house? Maybe she should be tested for allergies to animals too?

InLoveWithDOTS
11-19-2006, 10:08 AM
Prayers and hugs for you & your Mom!

sinead
11-19-2006, 10:34 AM
That's what she's been talking about, Laura. She's wanted somebody to do an allergy test for a while, but every time she's had an appointment, she's been sick and they won't test her. I think, well, I hope, that they'll get to the bottom of it this time around.

She's in the hospital now on a drip for dehydration and on anti-nausea stuff. They did a CAT scan and didn't see any big huge obvious and scary stuff, which is good. They're pretty sure that it has something to do with the migranes she gets, so hopefully this neurologist will help her out.

Thanks, girls, for all of your support. You've really helped me get through this. I'm so lucky to have friends like you guys!!

SandraKarls
11-19-2006, 11:22 AM
I just said a prayer for you & your mom... hopefully she'll be feeling better soon.

d2vasquez
11-19-2006, 11:30 AM
Awwwww Sinead it isn't your fault....although I know that you do feel so badly. Please know my prayers and thoughts are with you. Take care of yourself - worrying and stressing isn't good for you and your baby. Your mother is in the hospital where they can care for her and you know that someone is monitoring her at all times......which is probably the best thing for her now. I am truly sorry that this is going on right now as you are ready to deliver......